Anger is the strongest of our emotions. It can hurt, break and destroy relationships, other people's feelings and most importantly yourself.
The dictionary states that anger is ‘a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility’. But that isn’t just what anger is, anger has to come from somewhere, it could be from another person causing you to be angry, or something you're trying to do that irritates you and makes you angry, or a reaction to your own emotions.
Anger alone is a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from being vulnerable. We react with anger to protect ourselves from showing weakness as to not be exploited to not be seen as ‘weak’. At least as a man that's how anger affects me, I’m quick to be angry and to defend myself because I’m afraid of my own feeling and I'm scared to be weak and show my own vulnerability. I’m afraid.
I often find that my anger unintentionally affects my relationships around me, and I get too defensive and stay on the defense trying to protect myself and my own insecurity, especially surrounding my own mental health and stress in my life.
Having anger and being angry is normal but feeling to the point that anger consumes your life is when it becomes unhealthy and that is when you should seek out support from friends, family, colleagues. Similarly finding a hobby that enables you to release some of your pent-up anger. Never let your anger consume you and effect those around you or yourself and always reach out when you need help/support.
